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Little Helpers| Raising Empowered Kids that Take Notice
Iva 1:09
I am here today as always enjoying having my beautiful co-host Desiree Gonzalez- hi Des, welcome
Desiree 1:17
Hello Iva. So good to be always good to be here and we're always so excited for recording.
Iva 1:22
You know, every episode that we plan because we truly believe that it brings us so much value and insights to our listeners and today we're talking about teaching our kids possibly this art of noticing, you know, how we can raise responsible humans in the sense that in last week's episode, we delved into the whole concept of the mental load in motherhood and that invisible work and constant worrying that we carry with us the for the big part of those early years especially when we're having to carry the lion's share of the caregiving tasks. But today, we're taking it a step further. And with Desiree, we came up with this exploration on how we can offload some of this mental load with the kids but not necessarily like assigning tasks. But rather noticing what needs to be done. So Des, you are way ahead into this that I am and I know that you have started off doing your own discoveries and experiments at home with your own kids. So why don't we get started and why don't you tell me a little bit and share what prompted you to bring this about into your home?
Desiree 2:47
Yes, I think it's the whole mental load and this worry work and invisible loads that we always talked about in episode nine right it's a really big portion of our life, especially when we have little kids around us. And I kept just thinking to myself: Gosh, imagine a home where others besides yourself notice actually noticed what needs to be done instead of constantly having to ask them to do different things by them. I definitely am referring to my husband, I'm referring to my kids, right but it's the constant asking people to do things that's annoying me quite frankly. And I think that adds on to the whole mental load and motherlode so it seems impossible with little kids. But the earlier you start with talking to them about it as well and making an implementing really tiny tweaks, the more you can build on it in the future. Just imagine just close your eyes for a second and imagine that things are just being done around you without you having to ask all the time. And it is possible.
Iva 4:05
Yeah, it's something that I love what you say about starting off with those building blocks, right? And understanding that this is a long game, because you are not just trying to have them behave this way for the week or because we're approaching the Christmas season so everything is like if you don't do it, you know you're not going to get gifts. So I love that you are really looking into the long game of this and starting off by creating those foundations so that it becomes part of their nature, it becomes part of who they are.
Desiree 4:57
Exactly, exactly. So I started really involving my kids and especially my six year old son a lot more in the things I do at home, because I used to run around like crazy, you know in between when they were playing or when they're doing things to just tidy up or prepare this and prepare that and it was just crazy and they probably see me running around like a headless chicken sometimes, but not really noticing what I was doing either. So the first thing and like it doesn't really come in particular orders. I'm just like giving a few examples of what has worked for me at home and what is working and what my building blocks are. The first is really just to show them that everything has its place, right we like having a cozy home and a neat home. We have designated spaces where it's like sort of the adult area meaning of course they can be there but their toys are not to be there. Right that the living rooms looks a certain way that it's set up a certain way. And then their playroom is where everything is and of course they carry things over but they also know it needs to go back so everything has its home. And that's a little bit of the Marie Kondo style as well, right? So I intentionally decorate with them. Or you know, say hey, look how pretty the living room looks or look how really nice the play room looks like after we've cleaned it up, for example, right? And then everything has its place to go then. It's also really easy to clean up and then anybody can do it. But used to get me so much as the clutter of like the playroom there's just too much stuff and too many toys and everything. So you know there's a few things and we've spoken about in the past about what we can do, but we like make sure that the main things they play with all have their certain plays. And then when you ask them to either tidy up or like you say, you know, you start off with saying, Hey, look at this play room. What do you think? And then he already says it's pretty messy. And then like we both you know, we clean it up and it's usually also something we do together. And we always put up the clean-up song, you know, but it's really making sure they also don't like messy spaces. And they also like when they can find things and you know, some examples are so like, Oh Mom, I need this or I don't have that and I was like: yes you do. And then we pull out a drawer and as look at him like crafting supplies or something that's it's right there. See if we have a tidy home, you'll see what you have and what you don't have. And you can find things more easily in his he starts to notice. Oh yeah, that's true. It actually works in my benefit because I can find the things I'm looking for.
Iva 8:02
And I have that as well. So what I have always instilled in my children is that the same concept everything has a home. And so when things have their home, it's easier to find them of course, like we avoid the frustration of like, where is this? Where is that? And I wanted to just delve a little bit more into this first one piece because I think it's so important depending on the age of your child. And one of the things that I have noticed is that if your children are really really young, let's say possibly like four and under and you really want to get them started on this. Like I love it that way if your six-year-old, you ask so your prompting already because they have that capability to just assess a little bit better like oh yeah, you're right. This is messy, or this is not in order or we need to do something about it. But when it comes to the children that are a little bit younger, that can create a sense of confusion because they're not really sure what you want them to do. So if you want to get started, like a great tip is to be really, really clear on your instructions. so instead of saying like help me clean up your probably your two-year-old/ three year old, they're just going to look at you and they're not really going to, you know, understand fully. I'm not sure how and to avoid that sense of confusion and overwhelm for them. You can just say like look this teddy. Okay, let's put it over here the Teddy has its home, it's over here in this box or you know this container. And so then they can start linking up in their brain like oh, okay, the Teddy goes here, right? It's more like, a showing and demonstration for them. So, so that is, so that is fantastic. But if your kids are older, like mine are also older. I do stress the same thing or sometimes another pitfall that we as parents tend to go into when we are like, Okay, help me clean up and I want everybody to participate, is sometimes we fire off like three different things at the same time. It's like pick up this and take this over here, and this goes over here and it's like their brain is still not mature enough to handle all three instructions at the same time and order them in their way. So that can also lead to some overwhelm where you feel that they didn't hear you, but it's just that you started off with one thing and now you're talking about the third thing already in the span of seconds. And for them is like Oh, okay, so just helping our mamas keep that in mind.
Desiree 10:50
Exactly. That's such a good point. It's such an important point because our minds are now I mean, we're the kind of people anyways, we listen to things at 1.5 or 2.0 speed. We need to like we need to be slower for the kids right? We need to show them and often like often the Montessori way we do things at home as well. We, we show them rather than talk and that's also really great. Then with my little one I see she has an older brother so she just copies what he does. So that's also fantastic. So also another thing that's really made a big difference lately especially is I let them think especially my six year old. I let him think about what does he really need. For example, when we go out for the day, right? I'll say okay, here, this is your backpack. Think about what do you need when you go out? And then I think at the beginning often it works already that he will say Oh, I definitely need my coloring book and my pens for when we go let's say to a restaurant or when we're out and I was like fantastic. Then put everything you want to bring and put it in your backpack. So that already works. He may at the beginning not think about that. He may need a water bottle. Right? So then I do help him with problems. Okay, look, we need a water bottle. If you feel you need a snack and think about what snack you want to bring. And so the key is to just also plan a little bit more time before you want to go out because they need to pack their bag and you often need to help them with it. Right. But what I thought was also important though, I let them feel and I will intentionally like not like if he hadn't thought of the coloring book. And he will just pack like toys for example. That's fine. And I will let that go. And he when we're out. You'll be like, Oh Mom I want to draw in the coloring book. And I was like, Well, did you pack it? And he's like, No, I didn't. And I think by learning like, oh, you know I'm missing that and I was like okay, well let's remember to pack it next time. And then he's like okay, okay, you're right. And I want him also to feel because I feel we're always preparing everything for them because also that's the type of moms we are we just nurture and that's good. But I think we need to also let them learn this for the future about we cannot always hold their hand through life or not always be by their side, right. So that those little lessons of like, Oh, I really wanted a snack. I was like well that's next time you know, pack a snack. Next time. Let's make sure we bring your water bottle. So I feel it's getting better like we're in the middle of it. I feel it's getting better each and every time and I was quite proud of ourselves this weekend and we were away for a night and they thought of pretty much everything which was quite remarkable. Of course it's on me change of clothes, extra diapers. But the rest is really on him now and that lightens the load considerably already.
Iva 15:03
Yes, and one of one of the things that I have discovered and it's not that I that I have discovered it but it just becomes more apparent and evident is the fact that our kids want to help. And at the beginning those first years of life they really want to emulate what you're doing. They really want to collaborate, they really want to help out. And, you know, it's our golden opportunity to take advantage of it because later down the line when you're having older children, you know, they're entering the preteens for teens, it becomes a little bit more challenging, so to say. So this is the golden time if your child is already with that energy of wanting to help out by all means take advantage of it. One of the things that I did with my kids the other day and again, this is something that we also as you say I love what you discussed about allowing a little bit more time for them to come up with the solutions or the things that they want to pack or do or the activity at hand needs because they are practicing- they don't have the experience that we have. We are sometimes living a lot on our autopilot and we already know at the top of our head, what is needed because it's a given we've been doing it for so long, but for them, these are new skills that we're teaching them and we don't want them to feel discouraged that they're not getting them right the first time. So allowing time for the process in their mind to take place. is important. One thing that I noticed last time that I went out with my kids by myself was that we had to plan for snacks and they wanted to take sandwiches and I said fantastic. Here's the bread. Here's the knife- not a cutting knife but you know like a like a table knife. And here's a bit of almond butter. And you are in charge of making sandwishes today and my daughter who is also six. She was in heaven because she felt so adult in her being in charge and her brother wanted to and I had to assign him a completely different task. Because sometimes we want to get everybody on board and we want everybody to collaborate on the same task. And we have to really be mindful that we don't want them to get the message that oh, if there's not an older sibling or mom around, then I'm not really able to do it myself. And I wanted her to have that message and I wanted her to have that experience. So I divided them and it was the best thing ever because she was so proud of herself of the sandwiches that she had made and one thing that I have also found that it's very helpful if you haven't done so already. There is a book called The Five Love Languages. I forgot who the author is, but we will put the link in the show notes. And he goes into that all of us human beings we we have a love language where we have one main one and then a couple more that are there in the mix. And when our children are small and very young, they usually have all five, but then as they grow older you can start to notice that they lean towards one or two more than the rest. So just as a reminder, it's words of affirmation, quality, time, receiving gifts, acts of service and physical touch. So one of the things that I have noticed with my kids is that for example, my daughter, she's a very acts of service person. That's her love language and she loves to help and she loves to feel helpful and useful. And she's of service. So when she was packing the sandwiches, I knew that I was tapping into her love language. So you see, you can mix already like you can compound the effect of I need to offload this mental load, plus I need them to do something and it goes hand in hand with their love language so they're already like feeling even more motivated.
Desiree 19:11
I love that so much and it's so true. And right in there as well with my six-year-old he loves to make me coffees and the other day like in the afternoons like mama can I make you a coffee? He loves like putting the milk frother on and like I see that as well with him the act of serving. And then the other day was so cute. I was like, you know, just making it myself because I really needed one and he was really upset and he's like, You made a coffee without me? Yes, but I really wanted to make it for you.
He was really upset about it. I was like, Oh, well. Why don't you make yourself a hot chocolate drink and we drink it together? You know, hey love helping out and we should tap into that fully. Another thing I think is really important and I really thought of you that revolves around the preparation before the shower time.
Iva 20:13
Yeah. And I spoke about it last week. We spoke about it!
Desiree 20:17
And I love it! Always makes me think of you and I smile but I we do that now in a fun way. So we go into the bathroom and the thing is as well now in Japan, it's cold it's getting really cold at night. So we also make sure that we don't need to run around naked after the shower but everything was kind of prepared right? The pajamas are really there like in the bathroom. We get dressed when it's all nice and toasty inside before we actually leave the bathroom. And so you know, we always say okay, everyone's favorite towel. Okay, check. Pajama. Oh no, I still have to get my pajama. Okay, got your pajama check. You know, diaper for the little one. Okay, check. So we do this whole: Check, check. It's so funny. And it becomes like a game and a rhythm and also like almost not a competition but like a game like Oh, I thought of another thing -Okay, now we have everything. Now we can go into the shower, and do that. So these are also little things to make sure you're prepared and you don't have to think of all of the odds and ends. Or the same can translate into prepping the lunchbox for example as well. Right? It's, it's the same it's even like it's one of the tasks in the morning like, oh, I still have to do the lunchbox. I don't know. It's just not my favorite task to do. But then once you involve the kids, it's again Okay, do we have that? Check. Do we have that? Check. And also the whole choosing what do you want to go into your lunchbox because that solves the whole problem. I didn't want to eat that I didn't finish it.
Iva 22:07
Yeah. Oh my god that is so real to have. Right?
Desiree 22:11
So what do you want to have in there? We do that when we go shopping together or if I go to the supermarket like without him for example. I say okay, what are the things you like in your lunch boxes and tells me so I prepare them and I lay them out and he gets to design- we obviously you get to design your own lunch box and fill it up with things that you really like. Of course you only lay out the things you really want him to eat that are healthy and good, right? But they get to make those decisions. So I think those little things have been super duper helpful.
Iva 22:47
And I love to use the word, the sign and not the side because sometimes they can really internalize that as okay, I'm in control now. Like I really get to, to manage the whole space, so to speak. And one thing that I have noticed as well with my kids, which is very true is the whole meal lunchbox situation is it's really frustrating. And there are so many mothers that feel the same way. I was just having lunch with a friend yesterday and we had the same conversation and she's you know she's also a nutritionist like, like she knows you know what is good and how to optimize nutrients and everything and still she also has faced fighting her own battles at home. So one of the things that I have noticed with my kids is that giving them that accountability definitely helps because then it's like you designed your day -this is the lunch that you wanted or this is the dinner that we were going to prep. And so it's on you, right it's not an imposition. It's not that oh, well you made this as you say, like a cope out. And I'm now not going to eat it because you knew that I didn't like it or I don't want it but it's like you chose it. And what I made was some flashcards with different options and then they can match them up. So that it's also easier because then it's like okay, this with this or this with that or today let's do this and this other thing and it's also very visual because children are very, very visual. So they can design their own menu for the week and it's also for us moms. It also alleviates the motherload off grocery shopping and what to get for the week and what did we do last week? And what do they want for this week? And it's like all of this added steps that definitely increase the motherload, emotionally and mentally.
Desiree 24:50
That's really nice because I had actually put that in my bucket of things I still plan to do in the future, this whole meal planning. So that's great and I'm gonna definitely use your tips of the flashcards or maybe to make you know, I was just thinking of making pictures of the meals that we eat and then that they can say oh I want to eat today and that tomorrow or something- that's really good. But that's still outstanding for me to something to do. And then the whole involving them and cooking as well. You know, it's just because I have the very little one. Yeah, it's often so much more helpful for me if the older one takes care of the little one while I cook because having both of them in the kitchen, as much as I love it. But during the week we'll be there for three hours and we don't have that right on the weekends. That's a different stories, but on during the weekdays, sometimes it just needs to go fast. Right?
Iva 25:45
I have started to also you know, letting them make their own snacks, but they're nice. It's sometimes they like the love to snack on apples with almond butter. And so we need the apples and we need a knife for that and that is a cutting knife. So my stress level goes like to 100 because I'm like I obviously, we need to practice like this is the thing right? Like how did we learn to cut we started off by cutting and we have to do it in steps. So obviously I give them you know, information on how their fingers need to be placed. Why, you know, the apple cannot be wobbly, like we need to make sure that it's cut a certain way so that they can start cutting from that point onwards and so forth. So it really makes the task longer than if I were to be the one doing it because it would be done in three seconds. But this is playing the short game and not the long game right? And some days it's just easier to do it yourself. And some days you're like No, I have ample time or I feel very relaxed or I have the bandwidth to really take that knife in their little hands. Be like Okay, let's take a deep breath and let's trust that everything is going to work out fine.
Desiree 27:00
Have that trust that the letting go
Iva 27:05
But it's also a vote of confidence and I guess it all goes back to this basic building block. Like we want to create children that feel empowered, and they feel enabled to notice, right. That's how we started off. It's like how do you notice and how do you have ability for that if you are battling with your own fears, right and your own lack of self-esteem because it hasn't been fully developed yet for you. Then of course it's going to be harder but if they feel empowered and they feel comfortable and confident, then they're able to expand on that and expand on that and experiment.
Desiree 27:51
Exactly, exactly. So beautifully said. So other really simple tasks that are really not tasks but things that I'm implementing right now in the daily are things like making the bed in the morning. We all know that making the bed first thing in the morning is such a positive way to start the day. It's one thing that that's something that I cannot start my day without having made the bed it's just I don't even think about it. It's a habit. It's totally a habit.
Iva 28:24
I feel it's like a sign of success. Because it also eliminates visual clutter like we're talking about that we have so much in our head already from the mother lode and a messy bed just does something right.
Desiree 28:44
And it feels good, right? So now we do the same thing in the kids’ room like they share a room and we make the beds and I taught him to do his bad right or like look at look at how it's made and how we placed act to throw pillows on top and make it look pretty right. And then he now does it and of course at the beginning you need to have a few more reminders. But then sometimes I just I act I like to act to dramatize things, but I guess that's part of me, right? I go into the room was like, Oh, look at this. And then he's like what, what's wrong? And I was like, how do you feel right now? and his EQ Oh, and he's like already knows he sees me looking at the bed like oh, as like, doesn't it look a lot nicer when you make it really pretty with all your pillows? And he's like, Yeah, that's true. And so he makes it you know, so it's like, again, it's like the trying to prompt and not to say, make your bed, make your bed, make your bed or you know something It's so annoying to like you haven't made your bed and scolding them or something. But just like oh how does that make you feel? And it's really that then he makes it and then we celebrate as all look how pretty it looks. All the books are back on the bookshelf to bed as we look at this, you know and we take a moment as well to look at it. And that took a while but now it's so beautiful that he does that before actually going down in the mornings you know he gets changed and he does all that. And then we go down and have breakfast and like the first time I remember I went up or like I went up usually a little bit later because I get ready the little one as well. So he's down having breakfast with daddy. And I looked into the room to get clothes for the little one and I'm like, Oh, the bed is made. I felt so happy and I told him.
Iva 30:05
Yeah, and that is so important because it's positive reinforcement and one pro tip that we also need to master ourselves as mothers or as parents is to bite our tongue because they will not do it perfectly or to our liking or the way that we would have done it or start off with the thing that we would have started off or whatever that is and sometimes we just need to acknowledge that yeah, they are their own person, as long as the task is complete, or as long as they make the effort. That is what needs to be celebrated. That is what needs to be reinforced. Otherwise, you know, imagine that you're trying your hardest, and it's still not enough. Then what do you do next time? You don't feel motivated. You don't want to do it because there's always a comment. There's always Oh, this is okay. But you know, not not perfect enough. It can be very critical because we are very critical with ourselves right? We want to show up as the best version of ourselves. We want to be doing the best in our business. We want to having pat down this parenting gig. And that is fantastic because that is the motivation. But being a little bit mindful of how the message comes across, they are super sensitive. We think you get kids who are really resilient and they are but when it comes to our words, it becomes their inner dialogue. So that's where I see for example, my clients coming to me and it's like I'm not enough. I'm not worthy. You know, nothing of what I do amounts too much, because they internalize unfortunately, certain episodes or certain recurrent situations at home, where that was the feedback given. So just let's just you know, say wonderful and move on right?
Desiree 33:15
Exactly, exactly. Another great example I think of where you notice successes and I was really proud of this one is, I always made it point like it's my six year old’s chore in a way to set the table, right? That's what I had to do when I was little and growing up. And I just said look, it'll take away work, work my take away part of my mental load. If someone does that I'm going to be cooking and preparing things in the kitchen. And if someone would just set the table it'll just make things easier. Right? So that's what I started doing. And it was a pain in the behind because set the table it's almost dinner. Can you please set the table? Nothing. Can you please set the table? Nothing. Hello, can you set the table you know and then finally they react and set the table every day it was annoying me so much. And now I started then again, more doing the way of the noticing of the because then for deliberately I would not set the table and I would not say anything and I was like okay, dinner's ready. And they're like, oh, I don't have a fork. Oh, I don't have a spoon. Oh, I don't have a glass of water. Oh, well. I guess the table is not set. Okay, well, let's do it. Now. Let's do it together. That happened a couple of days. And then I said look, these are all the things we need. And mommy is really busy in the kitchen preparing and I think what you guys can do is help me we're a team right? I always resort to this, where a team we do things together.
That this is how they can contribute to dinner time. And now it's I say hey, dinner is ready in five minutes. And it's amazing because now I don't even have to say set the table please. You know, its dinner is ready, which he is already able to connect with. Aha dinner is going to be ready. That means I need to start preparing. And I think that has been like my biggest success over the last few weeks since we've implemented that kind of changed, implemented sort of the way we approach things, right. Yeah. And all I have to say is like hey, dinner's ready in five minutes or 10 minutes, whatever I say that day. And then he automatically goes gets the table mats and he even asked me what's for dinner? What cutlery do we need? I was like, oh my god, I was inside jumping with joy. And I was like, Well, today we need a fork and a spoon. Thank you for asking. We're gonna have this for dinner. And he's like, okay, and then like everyone gets a glass and then again, don't interfere let them choose the cutlery. They want the cups that they want. Yeah, it doesn't have to match for the moment, you know, building blocks. Let them set the table. And I think it's something also to celebrate and say I'm super proud of you that thank you for you know, doing that. But also and then he also says thank you mama, but you're already making the dinner. Yeah. So like, they also start to notice and thank you for what you are doing. And it's important. It's not only us thanking them because it's we're a family. We're a team. It's not my job, your job. And I really make sure we do that. It's not yours or mine. It's not my job and your job. It's not. That doesn't exist in our family. I always emphasize that we do things together. We are one unit. And I think that just takes off so much so much of the load and the drama at home. Yeah, and it's this sense also, I mean, I know the place that you're coming from, which is like you don't want it to be like we operate on silos at home like I do this and then you do that.
Iva 37:16
But it's sort of like bringing them into that awareness of how everybody is collective collaboration and contribution creates the whole and one of the episodes I think it was season three episode 27 as well we go into a little bit deeper into this whole like building a team as a family and considering our family unit as the as the most important part and then everything sort of comes down from there. So I love that- I love that they see the impact of for example, you are making dinner, but if nobody's setting the table then how are you going to eat? Right and then and then allowing them to notice how their actions impact in a positive way. And that they can notice how good it feels when the table is set when dinner is ready, you know and how good it feels that they contribute it to that in a major way. So one add on that I would add to the conversation today, which has been amazing because it's like, yeah, it's like back to the basics- back to those building blocks is also not only to notice at home, what needs to be done or what needs to be finished, but I also bring it into my kids as the ability to notice others and other people's feelings. To be empathetic or empathic about it because children are, for the most part very selfish. They're very self-centered. And the way that I use selfish is not in a negative connotation. It's like the world does revolve around them and that is how it's supposed to be developmentally speaking. That's correct. So we need to allow them to expand their capacity to notice not only their feelings, but also other people's feelings and the impact that their actions or non-actions might have on others. And obviously it all starts at home. So I just bringing this to the attention because for some households, it might be that you want to start off with very, you know, tangible things like Des today. You're sharing now these are the things at home that have really helped you offload the motherload. And for other households, the motherload might be more emotional. And so getting our children to understand that other people's feelings also come into the mix. allows for a better communication and interaction between everybody so they start to be a little bit more mindful about how they say things, how they ask for things at home with us. My children were going into this space where everything between them it was like yelling and snapping at each other and being very snappy. And one of the things that I brought to their awareness to help them start to notice is the energy with what you say things. So I tell them and I explain and I make funny faces as well, just like you do, I'm very dramatic, but I go look you can say the same thing, but the tone that you're using the gestures that you're using, they really convey a different message and so the other person on the other side is not going to want to collaborate or contribute because you're coming from this energy. And I role model that for them. And they notice how different it sounds when I say the same thing but angry or tired or fearful or happy and they're like wow, there is a difference in the energy so I always reminding them like, hey, energy, you know mind your energy you can say the same thing but with a different energy because sometimes it's not what we say it's how I say it.
Desire 39;00
Oh, I hear my dad in my head right now. What do you used to tell me what I was not what you say? It's how you say it. I'm like, oh, okay, the tone of your voice. Yes, yes, but it's true. It sticks and it's very important. Our children are young. And, you know, it is our opportunity now as well to kind of break the cycle a little bit. You know, we want our girls to grow up knowing that they don't have to carry things all on their own shoulders in the future. You know, and that they things are being done together. And also what our boys to grow up that they are an active part. They don't know what any other way but to be an active part of the family and of course things are being done together. Of course we're helping others you're not of course, just a normal way of growing up and instilling that in them. But starting with these simple tasks, such as what we mentioned at home will go a long way even in school and social environments with other friends with other adults. It'll just make such a big difference. So yes, as always, thanks for you know, listening to us for we look forward to your feedback. You may have examples that you have in your own household we are in the driver's seat right now steering our family to like a more powerful kind of connection that we have right to offload the invisible work and just to, you know, operate as a tighter family unit.
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We use Essential Oils to support our family a lot! We use them to keep everyone above the wellness line so we don't have to reach for any meds. And we also use them for emotional support. We've done our research and we always choose the best quality that we can find. So we definitely get all of our essential oils, cleaning and personal care products from Young Living. If you want to get your hands on them as well, use our link to get started. Go to https://www.momergyessentials.com/signup And that way you'll automatically be in our oily essentials community to get expert advice from our metaphysical and clinical aromatherapists. After all, we create harmony by being in the right community!
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Season 3, Episode 27- There’s no ‘I’ in Team | Building Family Teams
